What type is your show?

006-write-your-destiny-with-the-power-of-story-1400x1400Is it a Broadway show or a reality show? SO when you meet someone and want to date them or at very least get to know them better what type of show is it.  Honestly in the start it is most likely a theatrical Broadway performance worthy of an award. However, where does that get you when the reality series starts to take over?

We all find ourselves in this type of behavior from time to time in most aspects of our lives from work to home life to relationships. We all have the same wants and needs.  We have the need to feel wanted, needed, loved and respected by all those we come in contact with. Sometimes we all go a little overboard trying to impress people. Even those that have the attitude that they do not kiss peoples asses or are not anything but real and true. Well I call bullshit. There are times that you have put on a show. We all have.

We are all human and do stupid things like this. The catch is to try and be yourself and be respected for whom you are not what you thinks others want you to be. Recently I was at a network marketing event and I basically just sat back and watched and listened. We are driven by attention, as I watched I witnessed this first hand. I watched professionals stumbling all over themselves trying to be better than the person next to them.  The saddest point is I witnessed people getting lost in bullshit and most likely lost the biggest professional opportunities because they were speaking obvious bullshit.

This happens in dating type situations as well. We all have that one friend that we feel is more attractive, maybe financially better off and or maybe more outgoing then we are. When we go out with those folks it sometimes turns into a competition  to be noticed. Here is a thought why not just be you…. You are obviously friends with this person for a reason. Why not evaluate why you think these things of your friend and perhaps learn from them. In actuality you are probably viewed the same by one of your other friends you see we have those people in our lives and we are that same person for others in our circle. We all have that one friend that may make ourselves feel better when we are around perhaps more attractive or more outgoing or funny.  NEWS FLASH you are already all those things you just need to realize it. Stop comparing yourself to others and just be YOU.

If you start a relationship on lies and false impressions you risk the chance of losing some great people and opportunities in life. So just be you if those people and opportunities were meant to be they will happen. Take pride in yourself be thankful for your accomplishments respect yourself and others. JUST SIMPLY BE YOU !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I really would like your opinions so please leave your comments.

 

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So as you might have read a few post back that my goal is to make dolphnotes a permanent site in addition to I would like to launch an internet radio station and include a dolphnotes audio show. So with that said it is hard to obtain sponsors for that so it will be all on my own dime until I have been establish for 6 months to a year. So below is a bunch of websites I run that the proceeds go to the above mentioned project. Please shop and share the links. Thanks Dolph

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Happiness is one’s own responsibility

 

Happy 3Second guessing choices within your life can take a couple of different shapes within your world. It can hold you back or it can teach you a lesson to make you better. The problem becomes managing your regrets or poor choices so that it is a lesson and not something that will hold you back. Like most people I have allow poor choices that I have made sometimes dictate whom I am rather than who I want to be.

The hard part is realizing it before you push all those that care away in your life. For me I have struggled with this. After each of my break ups I go through this stage that I just exist rather than lick my wounds and get back to being whom I am capable of being. I almost shut down and just get stuck within the normal routine within life and pull back from family and friends. Over the years I have attempted to not allow myself to become a hermit,  not saying that I completely cut myself off more so that  I would most likely just stay in and be bored and alone then go visit with friends or family.

I have served in the Emergency Medical Service for a long time within my life and can handle the brain matter of a patient in my hands but I cannot handle the feeling of emptiness after a relationship ends.  It does not even have to be a relationship of an ex-lover could be the loss of a good friendship, which is usually over something stupid or over an asinine act on my part.

Part of the reason that this blog has come to be is because it causes me to evaluate myself in each of these relationships that have ended. I have started to focus on my part of the breakdown and helps me to notice the warning signs of a broken relationship. This is still a learning process I only wish that I was able to learn this earlier thereby allowing me to recover quicker, had I done this I would not have missed great opportunities with some great people that I allowed to walk out of my world. It has made me more open to admitting my wrong and apologizing for my stupidity.

So what does this mean…?  Well I am still learning what it means for me. I can say that I now understand a little better my own behavior. I can recover quicker from negatives in life such as harsh judgment or rejection.  I possess the courage to ask that person out that in the past I would already convince myself I didn’t have a chance with. Turns out some of the most beautiful women I know have not given me a chance at a relationship as a lover, but I still care for them as some of the best people I know. I often have conversations with them.  Frankly, I have great friendships with them. This is a huge step in the right direction for me, in the past I would have simply just walked away and lost the potential for an awesome person within my life. So maybe that is the answer one must realize that most people you meet that are invested in getting to know you a little have purpose within your world. Sure they may not be your next lover but perhaps they are meant to be one of your best friends.  I am now very open with these women and I always now tell them that in fact I was interested to get to know them at a different level however, I respect their position and if I ever crossed a line in conversation that they would simply tell me. As recent as a month ago I met someone while out with one of my housemates personally I thought she was stunning. After a conversation or two I found out that she is seeing someone and we basically agree that being friends would be awesome.  Same thing I said to her was that I would love being friends and if I crossed a line please tell me. She simply replied back Awesome!!!!  Turns out a couple weeks later after talking with me she has someone she would like me to meet.  Had this been the old me I would have never agreed to it.

We control our own path I believe that we can cause the demise of our own destiny. You really need to evaluate yourself learn some lessons from your mistakes and be ready to step up. After all you are the only one that can pursue your own happiness it is no one else’s responsibility but your own.

 

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So as you might have read a few post back that my goal is to make dolphnotes a permanent site in addition to I would like to launch an internet radio station and include a dolphnotes audio show. So with that said it is hard to obtain sponsors for that so it will be all on my own dime until I have been establish for 6 months to a year.  So below is a bunch of websites I run that the proceeds go to the above mentioned project. Please shop and share the links. Thanks Dolph

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For the love of god be real

This is a difficult thing for me to write on a couple levels. Personally I feel that I am a good man however, it seems that my methods and values that I hold to as a man seem to no longer have relevance within this world.

Honesty

Honesty not only with yourself but with your special someone. I feel a lot of unnecessary time is focused on who you think you have to be not whom you actually are. So why do it? In this society it seems that we feel never good enough, cute enough or worth the time investment it takes to be in a committed relationship. Here is an idea how about we all just be ourselves. Be honest with yourself be honest to your special someone. Stop lying to yourself by trying to be something you are not. Superficial beauty is temporary, false chivalry or kindness is so transparent and is seen through in an instant. So stop this nonsense and just be true and honest with each other.

Dedication

Stop being dedicated to nonsense. Dedicate time and compassion to your relationships be it romantic or not. Stop living a life clouded by false idols. Stop spending time with your significant other buried within your electronic device. How about you engross yourself within the love of your someone and not your damn electronic devices. It is amazing to me how addicted we have become to social media. Countless times I see beautiful couple out at a restaurant and the whole time they are there the cell phones are out and they are having full blown conversations with people on their phones and the supposed love of their life is across the table  from them. SO STOP IT !!!!!!!! You will wonder one day why they left you perhaps because they feel unwanted by your act of stupidity.

Loyalty

So if you are going to be in a relationship BE LOYAL. This person you call your other, deserves all of you not part of you. You are not a a piece of candy or a toy that should be shared unless of  course you and your partner are into this kind of thing and you both agree. This is another area to where guys fail. Listen loyalty includes not asking for or sending nude pics to other women or men. If you have a relationship with lets say an ex you need to make that clear to your mate with defined rules. For instance having children I have a relationship with their mother no this  does not mean I am going to or want to have sex with her it simply means I will talk with her. Additionally, to this date she will call me for help or advice. News flash she does this because I AM A NICE GUY AND SHE TRUSTS ME AFTER ALL I AM THE FATHER OF HER CHILDREN. By no means does this mean we have the relationship we used to and we are going to fuck. On the other hand if you do have sexual feelings for your ex and you are tempted please please do not they are an ex for a reason.

 

In closing the basic human values to which I was given by my family seem to have minimal place within this worlds dating society, never within my being, have I felt so out of place being a honest, loyal and dedicated man.  Even still I shall not become something that I cannot live with.

I really would like your opinions on this one so please leave your comments.

 

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A special favor my friends a person dear to my heart has been diagnosed with cancer and needs support so please view the 2 links below donate or buy a shirt if you can in not please share them on your social media. Thanks

T-shirts to show support

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Go Fund me page

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I am still looking for a story from a female’s perspective so please write one and send it to me. You can stay anonymous I will only disclose your name if you want me to.

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So as you might have read a few post back that my goal is to make dolphnotes a permanent site in addition to I would like to launch an internet radio station and include a dolphnotes audio show. So with that said it is hard to obtain sponsors for that so it will be all on my own dime until I have been establish for 6 months to a year. So below is a bunch of websites I run that the proceeds go to the above mentioned project. Please shop and share the links. Thanks Dolph

Links may not be clickable if not please copy and paste and remember to share

Home things and linen.

mylinenworld.com/adolphmontanye/

Makeup Eraser

montanyecorp.makeuperaser.com/

Home items and décor

montanyecorp.pineoakfarm.com/

Awesome supplement and nutritional program

montanyecorp.le-vel.com/

Women and men’s clothing and accessories

shops.zindigo.com/Montanyes

Adult Toys and gifts (must be 18 or older)

naughtyds.theydirty.com/