Second guessing choices within your life can take a couple of different shapes within your world. It can hold you back or it can teach you a lesson to make you better. The problem becomes managing your regrets or poor choices so that it is a lesson and not something that will hold you back. Like most people I have allow poor choices that I have made sometimes dictate whom I am rather than who I want to be.
The hard part is realizing it before you push all those that care away in your life. For me I have struggled with this. After each of my break ups I go through this stage that I just exist rather than lick my wounds and get back to being whom I am capable of being. I almost shut down and just get stuck within the normal routine within life and pull back from family and friends. Over the years I have attempted to not allow myself to become a hermit, not saying that I completely cut myself off more so that I would most likely just stay in and be bored and alone then go visit with friends or family.
I have served in the Emergency Medical Service for a long time within my life and can handle the brain matter of a patient in my hands but I cannot handle the feeling of emptiness after a relationship ends. It does not even have to be a relationship of an ex-lover could be the loss of a good friendship, which is usually over something stupid or over an asinine act on my part.
Part of the reason that this blog has come to be is because it causes me to evaluate myself in each of these relationships that have ended. I have started to focus on my part of the breakdown and helps me to notice the warning signs of a broken relationship. This is still a learning process I only wish that I was able to learn this earlier thereby allowing me to recover quicker, had I done this I would not have missed great opportunities with some great people that I allowed to walk out of my world. It has made me more open to admitting my wrong and apologizing for my stupidity.
So what does this mean…? Well I am still learning what it means for me. I can say that I now understand a little better my own behavior. I can recover quicker from negatives in life such as harsh judgment or rejection. I possess the courage to ask that person out that in the past I would already convince myself I didn’t have a chance with. Turns out some of the most beautiful women I know have not given me a chance at a relationship as a lover, but I still care for them as some of the best people I know. I often have conversations with them. Frankly, I have great friendships with them. This is a huge step in the right direction for me, in the past I would have simply just walked away and lost the potential for an awesome person within my life. So maybe that is the answer one must realize that most people you meet that are invested in getting to know you a little have purpose within your world. Sure they may not be your next lover but perhaps they are meant to be one of your best friends. I am now very open with these women and I always now tell them that in fact I was interested to get to know them at a different level however, I respect their position and if I ever crossed a line in conversation that they would simply tell me. As recent as a month ago I met someone while out with one of my housemates personally I thought she was stunning. After a conversation or two I found out that she is seeing someone and we basically agree that being friends would be awesome. Same thing I said to her was that I would love being friends and if I crossed a line please tell me. She simply replied back Awesome!!!! Turns out a couple weeks later after talking with me she has someone she would like me to meet. Had this been the old me I would have never agreed to it.
We control our own path I believe that we can cause the demise of our own destiny. You really need to evaluate yourself learn some lessons from your mistakes and be ready to step up. After all you are the only one that can pursue your own happiness it is no one else’s responsibility but your own.
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